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The Devil’s In the Details: 4 Tips for Dealing with Divorce

A divorce is often an emotionally trying time in a person’s life. It can be easy to take steps aimed at getting back at a former spouse for perceived slights during or after the marriage. However, it is in your best interest to remain calm and civil if you want the best possible outcome in your divorce case. 

Don’t Move or Waste Marital Assets

If a judge determines that you moved or wasted a marital asset to keep it from your spouse, your spouse may get a larger portion of remaining marital assets. You could also be sent to jail or otherwise face legal consequences. If you have to use funds from a joint bank account to hire a divorce lawyer, make sure that your spouse is aware of that decision. 

Keep the Kids Out of It

You don’t want your kids to be a part of your divorce proceeding if you can help it. While you want them to know what is going on between their parents, they don’t need to know the details. Make sure that they are reminded constantly of how much that you love them and that you will always be in their lives. Keeping the kids out of the divorce both protects them and increases the odds that you get maximum custody rights. 

Put the Divorce Agreement in Writing

It is important that the divorce agreement gets put into writing. A transcription service like Caliber Litigation Services or a similar company may be able to help those who have trouble writing or feel like a professional could do a better job of constructing an agreement. It is important to point out that a divorce settlement may become a matter of public record if a couple chooses to settle their divorce through litigation as opposed to mediation. 

Don’t Start a New Relationship

While you may be tempted to move on from your failed relationship, refrain from starting a new one until the divorce is settled. Your spouse could use this relationship against you in an effort to reduce the spousal support that you receive or to claim that you are a bad parent.

If you are going through a divorce, it is critical that you don’t let your emotions get the best of you. Instead, let your attorney handle the legal aspects of the divorce while you relax and attempt to put your life back together. Typically, remaining calm is the best way to protect your kids and your sanity until the divorce is over and you can resume your life.

Tim Esterdahl

Tim Esterdahl is the editor of IFCS blog. He is a married father of three and enjoys golf in his spare time.

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