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4 Signs Your Children Aren’t Adapting Well to Your New Home

Moving into a new home tends to come with both excitement and stress, and your children might feel these emotions in an even more intensified fashion. When you move into the new house, keep an eye out for some signs that your kids are not adjusting well to the changes.

Withdrawal from Favorite Activities

Perhaps your kids loved to create artwork at the kitchen table, or maybe older children opted to try out new recipes. It’s also possible that your kids enjoyed playing sports, taking ceramics classes or reading. If they are starting to withdraw from their favorite activities, you may then know that they are struggling to adjust. Do keep in mind that withdrawing from activities and finding new ones are separate. With a move, your kids may see an opportunity to explore and develop their identities.

Intensified Fears

Some children are afraid of the dark, and others worry about going down to the basement. What you want to do is work to distinguish normal childhood fears from ones that have been amplified as a result of the move. In the event that your kids are now begging to sleep in your bed every night or are refusing to go to the playroom in the basement, you may need to have a discussion about how the new house isn’t scary.


When children and even adults experience complicated emotions, they don’t always know where to direct these emotions. In other words, if your children are sad or frustrated about the move, they may stop listening to instructions, or they might begin talking back to you. While you do not want to encourage further negative behavior, getting to the root of these attitudes and actions is important. Only then can you address what is actually going on.

Frequent Mentions

Your children may also outright mention that they are unhappy with the move, but you might not pay too much attention to the comments. When your kids are frequently bringing up a topic, they may have a yearning to discuss that topic fully with you. Sitting down to have a real conversation instead of brushing the comments to the side can help kids to express their feelings. Sometimes, what people need is the ability to say what they feel. Then, they can start to work on handling those feelings.

Before you even select a new home to move into you may want to talk with your real estate agent about what activities and events are nearby that can help your kids to feel more at home.

Ultimately, you want everyone to adapt to the new home. In order to get to that point, you must pay attention to your children’s feelings.

Tim Esterdahl

Tim Esterdahl is the editor of IFCS blog. He is a married father of three and enjoys golf in his spare time.
Tim Esterdahl

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