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4 Ways to Navigate Sticky Child Custody Situations

Child custody arrangements are rarely easy for the parents. If you are going through a divorce, you’re suddenly going to be thrust into a world in which you cannot always be with your child. There are certain situations that are worse than others, though, and some that require finesse to get through. Below are four ways you can navigate some of the stickiest child custody situations.

Follow the Rules

Your custody agreement is a legal document. No matter how poorly it is going, you need to follow it. Make sure you follow the agreement to the letter, with no deviation. Disregarding the stipulations of the custody agreement, no matter how temporary, can be enough to get your custody reduced or revoked altogether. If your child needs to be dropped off at four o’clock on a school night, make sure he or she is there exactly on time. The more closely you stick to the agreement, the more you can show that you are following the wishes of the court.

Be the Adult

Your job is to be the adult in a child custody arrangement. If things aren’t going well, don’t take it out on your child. Give him or her love, respect, and stability. No matter how much it hurts, you need to present a stable home for your child. This will not only help to mitigate damage from the other family, but it will cast you in the light of being the better option for the child’s future. If at all possible, try to work amicably with your former spouse. Custody arrangements should be about what is best for your child, not about how you can punish your former partner.

Talk to Your Lawyer

Don’t ignore the fact that your custody arrangement is a legal matter. If the other parent isn’t living up to his or her end of the bargain, you need to go back to court. If he or she is doing something wrong, make sure your lawyer knows. Your lawyer is your best resource for figuring out how to find an arrangement that works for all of you. They will be your advocate in court, so make sure you listen to and follow their advice.

Never Give Up

More than anything else, it’s important that you keep trying. If your custody situation isn’t ideal, there’s always a possibility that it can change. The easiest way for it to get worse, though, is for you to stop trying. Yes, it may cost you time and money. It may even prey on your sanity. If you are willing to put in the extra work for your child, though, you will be rewarded with a chance to make things better.

Split custody will never be easy. If you follow the tips above, though, it will be easier to survive. Remember, your child’s future is what is the most important here – and for that, you should be willing to do anything.

Tim Esterdahl

Tim Esterdahl is the editor of IFCS blog. He is a married father of three and enjoys golf in his spare time.
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