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6 Fears Every Child Has and How to Help Overcome Them

Parents who are concerned about raising healthy, happy children should note that helping them overcome fears is a great way to accomplish this objective. Below you will find 6 common fears that children tend to have as well as strategies you can implement to help them make those fears a thing of the past.

1. The Dark

Children tend to be afraid of the dark because of a belief that evil creatures will come out during this time and cause them harm. There are several things that you can do to help your child overcome a fear of the dark, including placing a nightlight in their room. Give your child the power to determine whether using the nightlight every night to see clearly is necessary. In many cases, giving your child this power will help him or her develop a sense of self-confidence and authority that causes the fear of invisible creatures to diminish. Once the fear decreases, it is oftentimes the case that the child will no longer view using the nightlight as necessary.

2. Going to the Dentist

Children are oftentimes afraid of the dentist because they do not like the medicinal smells of the office or are scared that they will endure pain as a result of having their teeth and gums prodded with sharp objects. The key to helping your child overcome this fear is by providing them with an education regarding the process of basic dental cleaning. To facilitate this process, you can use brochures and informational pamphlets to show your child what happens when the dentist begins removing unwanted plaque and bacteria from the teeth and gums. Visiting the office of you family practitioner can help calm their nerves as they become familiar with the location and people. Once your child realizes that the trip to a dentist will actually help them look and feel better, the fear will likely wane.

3. Public Speaking

Children frequently find themselves afraid of speaking in front of others because they don’t know whether they will be made fun of. To help your child overcome this fear, help him or her practice any important speech, presentation, or book report they are required to give so that they gain confidence in their ability to articulate the words clearly and effectively.

4. Death

Unlike adults, children do not possess a substantive amount of knowledge and experience regarding the reality of death, which means that it is oftentimes a mysterious concept to them. Because of their ignorance regarding what death is, they are often fearful of dying or anxious about attending the funerals of others who have died. To end your child’s fear of death, have open, honest conversations about the subject with him or her. Be thorough in your explanations of why people die (suicide, malnutrition, debilitating diseases, natural causes, etc.) so that the issue is no longer ambiguous or beyond comprehension in the mind of your child.

5. A Bully

At some point in their lives, most children will be bullied. In many cases, bullies are willing to physically hurt other children, which could cause fear in your child. To help your child overcome fear of a bully, inform him or her that you will not allow them to be verbally or physically abused by another child. If necessary, take the issue to your child’s teacher and the principal to ensure that your child is safe.

6. Monsters, Ghosts, Etc.

Oftentimes, children find themselves fearing things that aren’t necessarily grounded in reality, such as monsters, ghosts, and invisible creatures with malevolent intent. To help your child overcome his or her fear of these fictional creatures, have candid conversations about the issue. Ask specific questions that help your child think rationally rather than giving way to irrational fears. Some good examples would be, Have you ever seen a ghost? Did a monster ever enter your room? By getting your child to answer these questions, she or he will become more aware of the reality that these fictional creatures exist only within the imagination, not the external world.

Although children oftentimes have a plethora of fears which make it difficult for them to lead productive, positive lives, you don’t have to allow your young one to suffer as a result of it. By following the outline provided above, you can help your child overcome all his or her fears and thereby lead a healthy, fun life. Good luck!

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