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Adoption Alternative: The Most Selfless Act a Teen Can Make

Getting pregnant can be daunting, planned or unplanned. It’s even more anxiety-inducing as a teen. Sometimes, pregnancy or parenthood seem impossible to get through, and even making that initial decision can be tough. If you or a loved one are going through this scenario, you should become educated on the paths available. There are alternatives to look into such as adoption, abortion, and learning more about becoming a parent. Become educated, and get familiar with what that positive marker really represents.

Being a Parent

Let’s face it, some people aren’t fit to be parents. Those who are drug abusers (that aren’t willing to quit), financially ruined, or mentally unstable probably shouldn’t be raising a child. A child deserves to be brought into a safe household. There are reasons people should consider their alternatives, but sometimes new parents are simply unsure. If there is no hazard to the child being born, it may be worth the baby’s future to explore the world of parenting. If being scared is the only thing holding you back from becoming a parent, it’s possible to educate yourself into becoming excited rather than scared. Parenthood, even at a young age can be a great opportunity and can provide you with some exciting possibilities. Talk with your parents and family to see if you’ll have support behind you if you choose this option. You should also discuss this with the baby’s father to see if they might be willing to lend support, financial or otherwise.


Whether it be drug abuse, lack of income, or lack of maturity, sometimes adoption is healthiest for the growing fetus of a selfless teen. Life is hard and children are extremely innocent, so it’s important to protect our youth. There are many families who can’t conceive, loving homosexual couples, or other parents with wide hearts that have the ability and ambition to take care of a new child. As the birth mother, you have the option to decide what kind of adoption process you’ll go through. You can even be part of the decision process in what kind of family your child goes into.

What’s best for the child may hurt at first, but it takes one selfless, strong woman to do what’s best. Of course, there are always open adoptions for those wanting to see the outcome of their selfless decision. Amazing adoption agencies like Guardian Angel Adoptions are waiting to put children in the arms of loving parents and families. You can decide if you want to be part of the child’s life from a distance or if a closed adoption with no communication would be better.  


Abortion is an option in an unplanned pregnancy. Before taking this path, be aware of the health risks: Abortions can sometimes cause more damage to the body than carrying the baby full term. On the whole, most abortions are very safe and go smoothly. Some places won’t perform an abortion and you might have to shop around for the best, most convenient facility. Most hospitals or doctors will not perform an abortion after a woman has been pregnant for a certain amount of time as well. Be aware of the laws in your state and find a safe, registered facility where you can get the treatment needed. Planned Parenthood is a great resource to check out and see what clinics might be nearest you. They’ll offer even more education on how to stay healthy after an abortion and even for prenatal health if you decide to carry to full term.

Having a baby can be terrifying and being a parent is even more so for some. If fear is the only thing holding you back, it’s always an option to learn more about parenting and other paths open to you. If there are more set-backs than fear, then adoption is one of the most selfless options that there is. Holding the baby to term for another family is a great gift to a family. Finally, there’s abortion. Whichever you choose, there are selfless options to an unplanned pregnancy.

Tim Esterdahl

Tim Esterdahl is the editor of IFCS blog. He is a married father of three and enjoys golf in his spare time.
Tim Esterdahl

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