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How To Stay Strong And Peaceful When a Family Member Needs End-Of-Life-Care

When a loved one has reached the point at which end-of-life care is required, it is inevitably an emotional and stressful time. This is particularly true if you are providing the end-of-life care for a family member. During this process, it is important to remain strong as well as peaceful. The following tips can help you to find peace and strength during this trying time. Everyone is different, so most it’s important to find whatever works for you as well as for your loved one.

Lose Yourself in a Good Book

Getting comfortable with a good book is a wonderful way to relax. Not only that, but reading activates your imagination and allows you to travel outside of yourself to other places. You meet and relate to characters, becoming involved in their stories and the situations in which they find themselves in a story. Inside of a book, you can leave your own stressful situation behind and relax.

Pick Up a Pen

Journaling is a practice that is recommended often for relieving stress and helping to find peace within yourself. Writing can help you to release difficult feelings you may be struggling with as well as allow you to come to terms with a stressful situation. However, journaling isn’t the only way that writing can help you to remain strong and peaceful. It’s also not for everyone. Many people simply don’t feel comfortable keeping a personal journal.

Instead of keeping a journal, try your hand at writing a story or a poem. You might just find that you have an incredible ability to write creatively. Doing so allows you to take your mind to a place away from the stress of your current situation, helping you to relax and feel at peace. You may even enjoy putting pen to paper to write stories from your family member’s life. Many people enjoy telling the tales that have composed their life as they reach the end of that life. By lending your ear and then writing those stories down, you may find that this process has a therapeutic effect on both you and your loved one.

Spend Time in Nature

Set aside some time every day to step outside and enjoy the nature all around you. Whether you prefer to take a peaceful walk or simply sit in a spot that you find particularly relaxing, just 30 minutes each day spent outdoors can leave you feeling refreshed. Whether you choose to jog or meditate in a park, take note of the wonderful smells that surround you. Take pleasure in the fresh air and the sounds of birds or the wind as it rustles through the trees. Creating this quiet time just for yourself can do wonders when it comes to staying strong and peaceful.

Talk About What You’re Going Through

Confiding in a close friend, another family member or even a therapist can have a tremendously healing and relaxing effect. Talking about what you’re going through allows you to release some of the stress you’re feeling instead of becoming wrapped up in the day-to-day difficulties that you and your loved one face during end-of-life care.

Consider Hospice Care

Many people feel as though they should be the one to care for their loved one, but there is no reason to feel guilt for placing your family in a comfortable hospice setting. Hospice is a wonderful solution, as the purpose of hospice is to provide end-of-life care, say the experts at Cornerstone Hospice and Palliative Care. Your loved one will be comfortable and well taken care of in a quality, peaceful hospice setting. You can visit frequently and even choose exactly how your loved one will be cared for. There is perhaps no better way to maintain strength and peace during a family member’s end-of-life care than to place that care in the capable hands of a trusted hospice.

You will more likely than not find that some of these things do not work for you. Whatever you do, don’t let that discourage you. Try hobbies, take a class or join a support group. The most important thing to do is to continue trying new things until you find whatever it is that can give you strength and peace during this difficult time. By doing so, you will help not only yourself, but your loved one as well.

Tim Esterdahl

Tim Esterdahl is the editor of IFCS blog. He is a married father of three and enjoys golf in his spare time.
Tim Esterdahl

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