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Reimagining Remarriage: Ideas to Make the Transition Smooth

Half of all marriages in the United States end in divorce, and a large number of those divorces occur among those who were married in the past. Those who find the greatest success after a first marriage, are those who take time to sit down and talk things through before exchanging vows. Talking about certain issues, and doing a few other things can make the transition a little smoother and your second marriage the one that lasts.

Talk with a Therapist

Though you might think you have control over your thoughts and emotions, you should meet with a therapist before planning your wedding. A therapist can help you better understand why your last marriage failed, and what you can do to avoid making those same mistakes in the future. Many couples also find it helpful to attend marriage and family sessions to talk about issues that might affect the whole family.

Meet with a Lawyer
Though you assume your marriage will last forever, you need to think about the future. Meeting with a Newmarket family lawyer, you can create a prenuptial agreement that will protect your assets if you decide to divorce later. Most couples agree that each will leave the marriage with anything they brought into it, and that they will split everything they obtained together equally. According to Lain T Donnell, your lawyer can also help you divide your finances and take care of financial issues, including bankruptcy or foreclosures before your wedding.

Talk About Retirement
People of all ages look forward to their retirement years, and you need to talk about those years with your partner. Decide what you will do in your later years, and how you can save for your retirement. The plans your employers offer, the money you have in your savings account, and money you set aside for the future are all things you should talk about.

Discuss Kids

Whether or not you have children already, you need to discuss kids with your future spouse at some point. Far too many couples marry and later discover that only one of them wants children, which can put serious strain on the relationship. Even if you both want kids, you need to decide how many, and when you’ll have them. If one or both of you have kids, you need to think about disciplining them, where they will live, and how you will take care of them.

Whether this is your second, third, or even fourth marriage, there are things you can do to make the transition smoother. Talk with a therapist, meet with a lawyer, and talk about kids and retirement long before you exchange vows.

Tim Esterdahl

Tim Esterdahl is the editor of IFCS blog. He is a married father of three and enjoys golf in his spare time.
Tim Esterdahl

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