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Six Things You Might Want to Consider Before You Split Up

While unfortunate, divorce or separation is a reality. For those couples who are able to work through their problems, that’s a gift that few people are blessed with. For others, making the process as painless as possible is best for everyone involved. There are six things you may want to consider before you split up.

When a relationship is in distress, very few couples will consent to seeing a counselor. While pride, ego, and anger will often get in the way, couples owe it to themselves to sit with a counselor and entertain the idea that their marriage might be repaired. It’s a small price to pay when the result could be a marriage that lasts for years to come.

Putting Children At Ease

For those couples with children, helping to reduce the kid’s stress level should be an absolute priority. Whether the marriage is over or there is chance for reconciliation, children should be made aware of the current situation and the possible outcome.

Discussions With Family
If all things point to a divorce or separation, consideration should be given to the extended family. Whether it’s done in a group setting or on an individual level, couples should make certain that family members don’t find out about problems through indirect channels.

Discussions With Employers
Although not as critical as talking with family, employers should be assured that your performance at work won’t be affected by an impending divorce or separation. While most employers will be understanding, others might have preconceived ideas that a bad marriage means an unreliable employee. Keep this in mind as you go about the separation.

Beware of Social Media
With social media sites like Facebook being such a pervasive part of our lives, couples should use caution when posting messages about marriage problems. While it may not be intentional, it only leads to gossip that will compound an already difficult situation.

Sit With Your Family Lawyer
If a divorce or separation is unavoidable, a family lawyer like Donald B Phelps Law Corp will offer advice about how to proceed without engaging in a protracted battle. Depending on the situation, a family lawyer may find in necessary to recommend other attorneys in an effort to avoid any type of conflict. Hiring a family law firm in Vancouver never means things have to get ugly. It simply means that things are handled professionally.

When couples face a divorce or separation head on, there is no reason to engage in a lengthy dispute. When handled properly, couples will get through the process and begin rebuilding their lives and the lives of their children.

Tim Esterdahl

Tim Esterdahl is the editor of IFCS blog. He is a married father of three and enjoys golf in his spare time.
Tim Esterdahl

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