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Stubborn Kids? 3 Strategies To Make Household Chores Fun

Getting a child to do chores can be a difficult process. There’s not just yelling and screaming in some cases, but also a willful ability to ignore everything a parent says. If getting chores done is a fight for your children, you might want to consider some alternative tactics. Below are just three of the ways you can get your child to stop fighting and to start doing his or her chores.

Make A Point To Participate

If you want your child to start doing chores without complaint, you will have to start modeling that behavior yourself. Chores may not be fun for adults, but we do them all the time. Make sure your children can see you working to keep the house clean and everything running smoothly. Talk about what you are doing and how it benefits the family. Be the kind of role model that your child can emulate and watch as he or she begins to start helping out as well.

It’s important that you do some chores in a very visual, very performative way. You want your child to both see what you are doing and to understand the point. If your child can understand the reasoning behind the chores, he or she might be more likely to participate when called upon to do so.

Make The Chores Easier

There’s something to be said for the value of hard work, but this doesn’t mean that you need to make chores harder than they absolutely need to be. It’s time to embrace technology and find ways to take at least some of the work out of chores. Remember, it shouldn’t be the labor itself from which you want your children to learn, but rather the lesson of responsibility. If you can find tools that make it easier to keep the house cleaner, use them.

There are a number of great products and services, like those from Central Vacuum, that take the little annoyances out of cleaning up. From eliminating the need to haul around a vacuum cleaner to taking the soapy bucket out of mopping, these devices both make chores easier for your children and take some of the potential worries out of the process. If you want your kids to do chores, make it easier for them to do so.

Gamify The Process

Gamification is a huge trend in all aspects of life, so why should it be any different for your child’s chore schedule? If you want him or her to buy into the process, make it a game. Give your child a list of chores to do and allow him or her to keep score. There doesn’t even have to be a major award at the end—allowing your children to turn chores into a real competition is often enough to motivate them. You’re not just showing them that chores can be fun, but you’re also showing them that working hard leads to results.

How you deal with the points and chores is up to you. Do try to remember that rewards are often helpful, especially when the children are young. Make sure the rewards are given for the scores, though, and not the chores—after all, chores are something in which everyone in the family must participate.

Despite the work you do, it will often be difficult to get your children to participate in chores. The three suggestions above are simply ways to make your job easier. It will be up to you to determine what motivates your child and, ultimately, what works for your house. With the application of these tips and a lot of hard work, you can help your child understand the importance of getting chores done.

Tim Esterdahl

Tim Esterdahl is the editor of IFCS blog. He is a married father of three and enjoys golf in his spare time.
Tim Esterdahl

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