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Tips for Keeping Your Family Close During an Amicable Divorce

Divorce is usually presented as a bitter process, but that’s not always the case. Some people truly get divorced because it’s the best for both parties and they can continue to be not only civil through the process, but they can even remain friends. If you are trying to keep your divorce amicable, you’ll want to consider these tips to keep your family close.

Avoid the Blame Game

First and foremost, you need to come up with a way to discuss what’s happening with your family that doesn’t put the blame on either party. If you are truly divorcing for amicable reasons, you need to make that clear to all involved. Talk about why you are splitting in a way that explains rather than in a manner that shifts blame. The more you can talk about the process as a mutual decision, the less your family members will feel like they have to take sides.

Keep Lines of Communication Open

Communication is going to be key going forward. If you’re seeking to keep things amicable, you need to decide what that’s going to mean for your family. There are certain things that you are going to want to handle separately, but there are also times when you will want to consult with one another. Set up dedicated ways to ensure that these lines of communication can stay open moving forward.

Get Lawyers

Yes, you do still need a divorce lawyer. A divorce lawyer is going to help you to ensure that the legal parts of your divorce proceedings actually stay professional as you work on how to amicably split. One of the biggest myths out there is that lawyers automatically make the proceedings adversarial – in truth, they often help you to streamline your divorce so it can move forward with fewer snags.

Be Willing to Adapt

Above all else, make sure that you are willing to react to the new reality of your situation. Many problems arise even in amicable divorces because one party or the other is simply not willing to acknowledge how much things have changed. If you can adapt, both you and your family members will be able to thrive going forward.

It’s important that you control the narrative during your divorce. Let your family know that isn’t a bad thing and that life will go on. The more you’re willing to open up and work with others, the better the process will turn out for all of you.

Tim Esterdahl

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