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Two Thanksgivings? How to Help Children With Divorced Parents Navigate the Holidays

Divorce can be a difficult but necessary decision, especially when there are children involved. In the aftermath, there are a lot of logistics to figure out, particularly around the holidays. Because of divorce, there might have to be two Thanksgivings or Christmases. Here’s how to help children of divorced parents navigate the holidays.

Stay positive

If you’re anticipating the holidays with a sense of absolute dread, it’s going to be hard for you to shake those feelings. Do your best to stay positive and look on the bright side. It might be a bit difficult to organize at first, but it won’t be impossible, especially if you start early enough. Get in touch with your spouse early and discuss

Work on the schedule

There should be a way to ensure that your children get to see both parents as long as you’re in relatively close proximity to each other. Consult with your ex to decide when your children will spend time with each of you. Any obligations, such as work duties, should be taken into consideration. Look at your children’s schedules for the holidays and see how the holidays can best be arranged.

Talk to your children

Your children should not be in the dark about what’s going on. Speak to them in a way that they will understand about the situation for the holidays. Don’t be vague or make any promises you can’t keep. If you’re having trouble figuring out how to discuss this, consider speaking to divorce attorney services and see if they have any advice regarding how to discuss this matter with your children.

Discuss plans openly

When talking to your children, make sure to be as open with plans as possible. They should also have some say in the decision-making. They might not be able to get exactly what they wanted, but they should still be able to offer their opinion. Ask them about what they would prefer and why. This can be a good way to teach your children about developing confidence in their opinions.

The holidays are a time for appreciation and love. Just because you and your partner are divorced doesn’t mean you can’t give your children a great experience. By taking the time to plan things accordingly and listen to what they want, you can give them a truly wonderful holiday experience.

Tim Esterdahl

Tim Esterdahl is the editor of IFCS blog. He is a married father of three and enjoys golf in his spare time.
Tim Esterdahl

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